Maria Lopez is an Angeleno born and raised. She was born in Silverlake before it was completely white and gentrified and spent her childhood living in Compton, Central LA, East LA, Southgate and Huntington Park. Maria uses the term "big" or "full figured" to describe her body and steers clear of "curvy" because it has the stereotype of being Jessica Rabbit and not fat. Maria has the kind of humor that laughs at calling herself a "fat fuck" and her and Jana talk about loving to laugh with their fat friends about their bodies.
Maria talks about being extremely thankful for her body because she has put her body through a lot and it's still here with her. That thankfulness helps her to give less of a shit about how she looks. Jana relates to that life because working as a teacher in an under-resourced school was extremely hard on her body. Maria was part of the original group of women of size in the Los Angeles comedy scene who gathered together to talk about our bodies (watch that video here).
Jana and Maria get deep into talking about her experience with sex and relationships and how she enters both with confidence and by practicing her worth. It's inspiring! Jana and Maria talk about discovering their own voices in comedy and how this practice gave them more of an identity and more self worth rather than relying on beauty and appearance as their sole source of value. Maria feels fortunate enough to never have gone through major body hatred in her life. Maria discusses losing 70 lbs after a breakup when she was 23 years old through an amazing diet of depression and working out. And although Maria has never gone to therapy because of poverty, her and her sister are working on a webseries called Maria & Babbs go to therapy, for which they are raising money via THIS INDIGOGO CAMPAIGN. Donate today!
Jana goes in on the busy vibe in New York City vs the passive vibe in Los Angeles. She's an advocate for free time and laziness after years of an intense hustle. In terms of love and relationships, Jana and Maria swap relationship experiences and Maria unveils a very spiritual approach to people coming into our lives for specific reasons. They discuss how potential partners could speak about our bodies in romantic situations and Maria's experience with men who have enjoyed her body as well as men who have fetishized her body. Maria reminds us that she's a damn performer and she's down to rip her clothes off like a sexy motherfucker and I will say with honesty that she is a very sexy woman. Again, these two broads shout out the men in the shadows who love women of size! Come out, come out, wherever you are!
In terms of style, naturally, Maria and Jana discuss their tomboy-ish childhoods because of childhood chub and wanting to cover it up. Baggy clothes, long sleeves, boys' clothes...the standard fare for young women of size who don't have access to affordable clothing that fits. But Maria has leveled up and her closet is full of polka dot swing dresses and band t-shirts. Follow Maria on instagram @redlipsnohips.
Maria's One Cool Thing is the book Tranny by Laura Jane Grace, a trans woman in punk rock. It's a book about identity and rock n roll and definitely worth a read. Jana's One Cool Thing is Equity x Design, a collaborative that gives workshops around the design process with equity as the center @multiplyequity. Read this article stating that racism is a product of design, therefor it can be redesigned.
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